Dating Tips


DATING TIPS FOR THE CHRISTIAN:


Here are my thoughts for any man/woman you may date or plan to marry:


1) Be careful not to share about your finances or other private situations in your life, especially if the man/woman works at your workplace. If the relationship wouldn't work out, you'd regret telling him/her, cause he/she may share too much with other employees. Most men do not realize how much women are tempted with their tongues. Just like most women don't realize how men need to watch their eyes - same with women and their mouths. : ) Explain your personal finances when the relationship is more serious, closer to the engagement time.


2) Get to know his/her family very well, before you marry him/her. Most of the time, when you marry a man/woman, you are marrying the family, as well.


3) As you get more bonded, refrain (I know it's hard) from sex. As I've mentioned previously, sexual activity will only blind the couple from really getting to know one another. Marriage is more than sex, as important as sex is, you well know that marriage has to have good communicational skills and friendship to one another. Sex blinds.

Communication, love (without sex), work, pleasure, and forgiveness, all play a part in having a good, lasting marriage. (Most of all, fornification sends everyone to hell, unless they genuinely repent and stop their sinning). It's very clear in more than one portion of scripture that sexual sins will definitely send people to hell. True!


4) Notice how she uses his/her money. Is he/she a spend-thrift? Does he/she respect money?

Does he/she spend because of any mood he/she feels at the moment? Is he/she practical or impulsive when it comes to his/ her finances. Does he/she know where his/her money goes?
Does he/she have to always have name-brand things?


  1. 5)How does he/she discipline his/her children? (if there are children) Are they taught respect

to adults and those in authority? Are they somewhat guarded and shielded from you? Do they talk respectful to you? Do they have good eye contact when you talk to them? Can you relate to them? Would he/she let you correct them (as if you were their biological mom or dad) if you married him/her?


6) Is he/she self-centered? Does he/she always like to share what's going on in his/her life, without considering what's going on in yours? Does he/she need tons of attention?

Is he/she content to just sit and talk or window shop, or do the simple things in life?
Does he/she appreciate each day as a gift from God?


7) Does she dress provocative? Is she sending a single to others that she really doesn't respect her own body? Can you tell if she's ever had abuse (from her past) by any behavior patterns that you see on the surface? If you're a woman, is the man abusive? Does he get 'set off' easily? Is he easily angered? Does he have a temper?
Ex: Throwing things, hitting or kicking pets, foul language or striking out.


8) Does he/she like pets? Is he/she compassionate when he/she sees a hurting animal or elderly person that needs help or attention, or does he/she just "blow-it-off" like that's too bad, but changes the subject quickly and goes back to herself!


9) Is he/she a gossiper? Does he/she criticize other easily? I mean is he/she quick on his/her tongue to say negative things about others? Does he/she overlook the faults of others, even when they have done many injustices to him/her?


10) Is he/she a HAPPY person most of the time? Or does he/she complain about the little or small issues that life brings? Can he/ she bounce-back after disappointments?
Is he/she rezealent?


11) Is he/she honest? Does he/she see him/her faults and apologize? Does he/she treat others fair, like he/she would want to be treated?


12) Most of all - IS HE/SHE SAVED? DOES HE/SHE LOVE GOD? DOES HE/SHE LOVE TO GO TO CHURCH, OR IS IT A "CHORE" OR "DUTY" TO GO? DOES HE/SHE HAVE HIS/HER BIBLE OUT OR DO YOU EVER SEE HIM/HER READING IT OR QUOTING SCRIPTURE TO APPLY TO HIS/HER LIFE? IS HE/SHE A GIVER? A TITHER? IS HE/SHE COMPASSIONATE ABOUT SPIRITUAL, GODLY VALUES, PRINCIPLES AND MORALS?

This last one is the real "clincher" cause if he or she's not.....people can change, but much better if they do before the marriage ceremony than after. I've counseled far too many folks who think their spouse will change after they get married, only to be disappointed that their plan of 'changing' him/her isn't working like they thought it would! Only God can change a person. People can't. Most folks are extremely stubborn when it comes to changing their life-style. They will usually see the faults in others before they look at themselves in the 'mirror' of God's word (and prayer) and genuinely repent and change to be what GOD wants them to be. Nagging NEVER changes people....fault - finding NEVER changes people.....Manipulation NEVER changes people.....it's the Holy Spirit, the Word of God, fasting / prayer and demonstrating GOD'S LOVE consistently, that will change the stubborn, rebellious hearts of those we love and those that are casual acquintances.


If you ponder these statements and questions and take it to the Lord in prayer, He will reveal much to you before you would step out and make a big mistake that you would very much regret.


God bless you for reading this article. Matt. 19:26

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